5 Body Language Tricks to Make Anyone Instantly Like You
Now if the title doesn’t grab you, I don’t know what will.
Don’t we all want to be liked? What is that all about? In Marwell and Schmitt’s
Taxonomy Influence Tactics this falls under “Positive Esteem of Others” rather
nicely. I work in an environment with numerous people and as a supervisor I definitely
want to be liked.
In this particular video the gal is specifically talking
about using body language to get others to like you. We hear a lot about using
verbal language and the way we dress to impress, but this sounded intriguing.
This right off the bat hit me in an way that caused an affective consequence as
it is important for me, and probably the rest of us as human beings seeking friendship.
I was definitely drawn to it by emotion and yearning to learn the tricks. She
also spoke in such and way (and with a great accent) that help and kept my
interest and attention.
One process premise at work in this presentation is the need
to “win friends and influence people.” I think we have all heard that before. We
all want friends and to be able to make a mark in the world. We need to be able
to hold the attention of the person we are talking to. She talks about smiling
and looking at the opposite person. She claims that this will cause the other
person to “instantly” like you. After all, attention is what everybody needs,
right? I believe it’s a part of showing respect to the other party in the
conversation.
Later in the presentation the premise of emotion was used to
introduce a tip called “The Big Baby Pivot.” Now who doesn’t like babies,
right? She talks about paying attention to a new person in the same way you
would give attention to a baby that had crawled up to you. In most cases,
babies cause a certain reaction by most people.
The process premise of consistency is also at work here as
the presentation continues. If we use the tricks that are shared in this video
regularly then we may actually have the whole world liking us….and who wouldn’t
like that?
One of Reich’s Cultural Parables is that of the Benevolent
Community where neighbors and friends roll up their sleeves and pitch in to
help when problems occur. It’s also about “America’s essential generosity and
compassion to those in need.” The speech I chose to use for this is one given
by President Obama in after the earthquake and Tsunami in Japan. Right at the beginning of his speech he talks
of the great destruction to our friends and greatest ally, and then lists the
things that are being done, such as protecting our own nuclear energy and
American citizens in Japan affected by the catastrophe, and how the USA is
helping the Japanese people contain the damage, recover, and rebuild.
I do like the fact that he called this country across the
ocean our friend and ally. Throughout the speech he speaks of working alongside
and helping with the efforts of recovery and damage control. I believe that
when he focuses on our fellow Americans it immediately sets forth a sense of
urgency and encourages other Americans to rally around and support whatever
needs to be done to protect and help our fellow citizens, who are our neighbors
and friends, no matter where they are living. Speaking of the situation in this
way creates an immediate affective reaction, especially for those family
members who are left here on American soil wondering what is being done to help
their loved ones.
On the other hand, the specific information about what the
damage is and what is being done also informs the public of the dangers of the
situation and gives the public the knowledge they need to handle the situation
at hand. He speaks of taking “prudent
and precautionary measures to educate those Americans who may be in danger of
radiation.” This creates a cognitive effect not only for those here watching
the situation unfold, but also allows us a measure of peace that our fellow
Americans who are being taken care of as well.
The process premise of need is used at length within this
speech from the need of evacuation for safety’s sake, the need for educating those
who may be affected by radiation, and even the need for evacuation of certain
locations. Obama also vocalizes the necessity of citizens to monitor the
situation and follow the guidance of both the Japanese and American governments
as things unfold. Obama also addresses the needs here at home and says that
there is no danger posed to our nation. The only need we have here is to stay
informed. He states that we have a responsibility to learn from crisis events
in other countries and to “draw from those lessons to ensure the safety and
security of our people.”
Obama also speaks of having our nuclear plants checked here
at home to be sure that everything is safe and functioning well. I believe that
this could fall under the process premise of attitude and/or consistency. It
can reflect an attitude of action and proactivity in assuring the safety and
security of our own. Ensuring that we have done all that we can do to prevent
any crisis here in our own country. This action can also fall under the premise
of consistency due to the effort itself and following certain protocol to
prevent or try to minimize catastrophic events here on our own soil. After all,
if we look good here and are safe, then we are better able to help and serve
our fellow allies. As he lists out the things that we as a nation are doing to
support and help Japan he says that the military has been helping in that
capacity for “decades” which also implies consistency in our support of this
nation.
We have given food and water and helped in recovery efforts
which also shows our attitude of support for our neighbor, which is the final
process premise. We have sent our own experts to help “contain the damage at
Japan’s nuclear reactors. We are sharing with them expertise, equipment, and
technology.”
This speech screams that we are a benevolent community. Look
at all that we have done for Japan. This is definitely a great example of Reich’s
Cultural Parable. Obama makes his point well. America is doing all that it can
do to help out not only our own fellow American’s but also the Japanese who were
affected by the earthquake and Tsunami. American’s have donated to the relief funds,
the American Red Cross has taken care of the immediate needs of those affected,
and the also gives a website where any others who would like to volunteer can
go to learn more. He says, “The Japanese people are not alone in this time of
great trial and sorrow. Across the Pacific they will find the hand of support
extended from the United States.” What a great nation we live in where we will and
do exhaust our efforts in help of other nations in need.
